There has been a lot of discussion online lately about the role of significant others on a mom’s writing career.
So, I thought I would answer the question that Maria Schneider asked last week:
Does your partner support your writing goals?
I imagine that readers of my books and blogs already know the answer: It’s a resounding YES.
He is also the keeper of the steady paycheck, so that I can have a more erratic one.
And thanks to his support, my income continues to grow steadily as it has for the past ten years.
So, do I think a supportive partner is key to helping a writer mama establish a solid foundation and a steadily growing writing career?
What do you think?
I go into detail in Writer Mama about how to initiate and sustain good communication with your partner about your wants and needs and how to balance your wants and needs with your partner’s and children’s wants and needs.
I also talk a bit about the fact that your partner’s and kid’s wants and needs are equally important. Let’s not forget that part.
Lisa Romeo rounded up a list of complaints she’d noticed around the Internet in her blog. Check it out and then come back and chime in: do you feel supported in your writing career for the long haul?
Because this is going to take awhile, mamas. And impatience or pressure aren’t likely to help. In fact, if everyone can maintain their sense of humor, it will help a lot.
However, it’s equally important to be realistic and mindful. Times are economically challenged. Emotions are running high. Don’t focus overly on what you don’t have yet. Focus on what you do have, be grateful for it, and take care of basic needs first.
It’s unwise to try to build a writing career on a shaky foundation of any kind. If you take care of your basic needs while working steadily on increasing your writing career skills over time, you WILL succeed.
That’s what I did. That’s what I continue to do.
That’s my two cents on the topic.
And if you are not partnered, or you don’t have kids, it’s equally as important to surround yourself with what Julia Cameron calls “believing mirrors.”
Try to have people around you who affirm that succeeding at what matters to you, matters to them. 🙂