Is my husband supportive of my writing career? How about yours?


My husband, Jason, making a cheesy face.

There has been a lot of discussion online lately about the role of significant others on a mom’s writing career.

So, I thought I would answer the question that Maria Schneider asked last week:

Does your partner support your writing goals?

I imagine that readers of my books and blogs already know the answer: It’s a resounding YES.

He is also the keeper of the steady paycheck, so that I can have a more erratic one.

And thanks to his support, my income continues to grow steadily as it has for the past ten years.

So, do I think a supportive partner is key to helping a writer mama establish a solid foundation and a steadily growing writing career?

What do you think?

I go into detail in Writer Mama about how to initiate and sustain good communication with your partner about your wants and needs and how to balance your wants and needs with your partner’s and children’s wants and needs.

I also talk a bit about the fact that your partner’s and kid’s wants and needs are equally important. Let’s not forget that part.

Lisa Romeo rounded up a list of complaints she’d noticed around the Internet in her blog. Check it out and then come back and chime in: do you feel supported in your writing career for the long haul?

Because this is going to take awhile, mamas. And impatience or pressure aren’t likely to help. In fact, if everyone can maintain their sense of humor, it will help a lot.

However, it’s equally important to be realistic and mindful. Times are economically challenged. Emotions are running high. Don’t focus overly on what you don’t have yet. Focus on what you do have, be grateful for it, and take care of basic needs first.

It’s unwise to try to build a writing career on a shaky foundation of any kind. If you take care of your basic needs while working steadily on increasing your writing career skills over time, you WILL succeed.

That’s what I did. That’s what I continue to do.

That’s my two cents on the topic.

And if you are not partnered, or you don’t have kids, it’s equally as important to surround yourself with what Julia Cameron calls “believing mirrors.”

Try to have people around you who affirm that succeeding at what matters to you, matters to them. 🙂


5 Responses to “Is my husband supportive of my writing career? How about yours?”

  1. 1 Mocha Dad April 21, 2009 at 5:36 am

    My wife has always been supportive of my writing mainly because she is a writer also. We help each other with story ideas and encourage one another when we lack confidence.

  2. 2 writerinspired April 21, 2009 at 11:22 am

    Currently, I am the breadwinner in our household and I only find time to manage my growing writing/teaching career with the help and understanding of my husband. He is a huge support in my goal of writing/teaching full time for income. However, he is also my grounding force. When I’m cross eyed from sitting at my laptop or “uh-huh’ing” absently to our kids, my Dave brings me back to the real world swirling around. He helps me keep on track without forgetting my top priorities: our family.
    (I also found that if he’s involved in reading my work he understands more the pressure I’m under and respects the time I do need to complete assignments.)

  3. 3 AGK April 21, 2009 at 2:48 pm

    Oh definitely! My husband is the one who steers me back every time I stray. He’s the best!

  4. 4 Tammy April 22, 2009 at 12:46 pm

    I came across your site through “So Much More Than A Mom” a few months ago….I had not checked in our site in awhile. Then, yesterday, I clicked through to find this post.

    A small world it must be, I went to high school with Jason. We even shared a date to the movies.

    He was always a very nice guy and appears to have continued on in life that way.

    Small, small, world!

  5. 5 Kris April 24, 2009 at 12:22 pm

    My husband was my own personal help desk the other day! My computer was having its’ senior moments and—frantic call placed to my husband at work at 8 am– fixed the problem. And, he’s not even a computer specialist! He talked me through an emergency, averting an editorial tragedy!
    PS. Just found you a few weeks ago–won a copy of your book—and I CAN NOT WAIT to read it! Enjoy your blog.

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